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Quit If You Want To. We Won’t Stop You.
“You’re already in pain, so you may as well get a reward!”-Eric Thomas, The Hip Hop Preacher
Right when I’m about to give up, my fitness trainer inspires me with the above quote from Eric Thomas’ “How Bad Do You Want It” speech. As a matter of fact, he plays the entire speech. Then all of a sudden, the pain is over.
How many times have you been in a situation where the pain was so great you wanted to quit? How many times when you actually quit, you wished you’d kept going knowing how much further along you could have been?
If this has been you or if this is where you are now, I’ve done this before, too so you are not alone.
There are many forms of pain whether it is from a broken arm, hurt feelings or a scraped knee. But the kind of pain I’m referring to today is a little different. I’m talking about the pain of not accomplishing your goals and dreams as you said you would.
We’re about 8 weeks away from the end of the year 2011 and many of you made a commitment to yourself to change your life for the better. So today, where are you in making it happen? What excuses have you made for the last 44 weeks as to why you couldn’t get it done? How does that make you feel knowing you are probably in the same place on your goal list that you were a year ago and knowing all the things you’ve allowed to get in your way are still there, too? What is it going to take for you to love yourself enough to take care of the body you have to live in?
Yes, I know the stress of feeling like it’ll never happen or thinking you’re too old to change back the hands of time or feeling like you don’t have time or the money isn’t there or the support isn’t there or nobody will like me blah blah blah. But I also know the multiple excuses we make because we can be LAZY.
In the last week, I calculated that I’ve spoken with about 110 women about being healthy and losing weight. My primary contact with them was because we were talking about our passions and I expressed my love for fitness. From there, they’d explain how they don’t have time for this and that because this child has this to do or they were super busy with mowing the grass and a bunch of other excuses they gave me.
After the excuses they still wanted to know “how long did it take” and “what was the price.” So that got me to thinking about the value some people place on their lives. See if they saw a person wearing designer shoes or driving a high end car, some people would be quick to say, “Girl that’s my dream!” They wouldn’t ask what price was paid for it. They’d ask when did you get it and what do you do for a living to make it happen. Yet when they look at the things regarding their health and the “how to” and the proof is shown to them, it costs too much or they don’t have time because it “takes too long”.
After my survey last week, it made sense to me…..some people do not want to be healthy and live a wonderful life unless they have medication and are near death. It’s as if there is some great reward in suffering. Why?
Well…….Food is a drug…………………………and it’s possible, they are addicted! (It takes one to know one.)
Hi my name is Temeca, and I am a recovering food addict!
Yes a food addict. I love food but the wrong foods almost killed me. It didn’t run into my house in the middle of the night and jump on me, but I made a conscience choice to EAT my way through pain, stress, suffering, lack, loneliness and boredom. There’s just something about crunching on something and smelling good smells that trigger this thing in my mind that I had to have it. And when I would get a hold of it, I SUPER sized it!
But the day came when I would sit at the top of my steps at home and slide to the bottom because I was so worn out from the stair climb. I also began having all kinds of medical issues from what I thought were gall stones to high blood pressure.
I was sure I was dying so I went to the doctor who ran a series of test on me. When the results came back, he looked at me and said, “Do you want to die?” I’d never had that question asked before so I had to think about it. As I was thinking about it, he said, “The bottom line is you’re fat….morbidly obese is more like it and IF you do not change your lifestyle, you will die from this morbid obesity and this coat of fat that is hovering around your heart. All the things you’re complaining about that you have to do will be over. It’s up to you, so let me know.”
And that did it for me……………….but not that day.
I’m going to end here for now, but it took a bigger eye opener for me to “get it” and make a choice to change my thoughts and my ways in order to form a new habit and groove in my mindset. All I can say is this is one time in my life, I am thankful I kept going.
Look for part 2 of this soon.
Be handled with care and love,
Temeca
© All rights reserved. The Temeca Group, Inc. 2011
Successful Relationships
Ain’t no particular sign I’m most compatible with, I just want your extra time and your………Kiss.-Prince
This has to be the first place I’ve ever lived in which I am usually greeted by “what’s your sign?” It’s as if my sign determines whether or not we’re going to be some great phenomenon or a great disaster. And when I tell my sign, I seem to strike a chord with them that resonates “Oh my goodness, you’re a handful blah blah blah”. Sometimes, I have them guess and they are usually standing there with the deer in headlight look because they are wrong. Zodiacally-technically speaking, I am a cusp sign with mutable and cardinal tendencies, raised by a certain type of man and woman (with their own issues), reared in a specific environment and genetically coded in a unique way. Then there are my own thoughts.
We are all designed this way, therefore, the zodiac sign predictor can be significantly off and cause us to be judgmental in the wrong direction and miss out on the best thing ever.
IF the zodiac signs were SO on point, why do we have SO MANY failed relationships of supposedly compatible people? Yeah, it’s great to know the personality type of the one you love, like or are attracted to, but the substance of who that person is should be considered high on the scale. Simply put? I’m compatible with all of the zodiacs. I just pick and choose what I will deal with from an individual and I also look at the things that make him tick.
But someone would say I’m not compatible with all the zodiacs because I’m the baby of the zodiac. Some may say I should have a daddy zodiac type of guy who can give me direction since I can be indecisive, demanding with an “It’s my way or no way attitude”…etc. Well how about I am the leader of the zodiacs: loyal, love only one at a time, the initiator, the front leg of the four-legged race with the spirit of “win or win”, honest and no matter what’s happening we will win. I think in the larger scheme of things we should ask, where does this information come from? But does it really matter anyway?
Let’s see.
Maybe you’ve found yourself at times like me asking him questions as if you’re interviewing him for a leading role in your life. Yet regardless to what you’re told, his sign shouldn’t be a priority.
Consider this.
The things which stand out the most should be where did he come from and how was he raised. Followed by learning and understanding his beliefs, goals and dreams. See the answers will always appear in his actions which will show you what is in his heart; therefore he only has his word.
For his sake, he should be an honest man because the truth will eventually tell on him anyway.
Will the zodiac predict the best outcome of your relationship? No, is my opinion.
If you want to learn personality types, take a psychology class. But relying on an un-proven man-made assessment which cannot possibly factor in all of the possible scenarios available does not make sense. My proof is in the court system dockets filled with divorce papers, unhappy people staying together and people judging another based on a flawed zodiac system…which interestingly has now changed all of a sudden. (Read about the zodiac shift on your own.)
Dear people, the heart and mind being on one accord between the two individuals are the true predictors of a successful relationship. Trust, Honesty, Love, Respect and Faith are the foundation of it, no matter what one’s zodiac sign reads.
Let’s get to work on having successful relationships that really work.
Be handled with care and love,
Temeca
© All Rights Reserved. The Temeca Group, Inc. 2011
What Are You Doing For The Rest Of Your Life?
What Are You Doing For The Rest Of Your Life?-Chris Botti
Hello PBOE peeps!
Short True Story
How To Accomplish Your Goals Like a Baby
I was reading a post by a fellow blogger talking about “trying until…” and it got me to thinking about my daughter’s first steps.
SHORT TRUE STORY
It was New Year’s Eve and we were having a party at my house. The food, the lights, the music, the card games and the kids were all in full effect. It was about ZERO degrees outside and we also BBQ-ing, so you know the festivities were really crunk!
Our kids were still up as that was the one time of the year they were allowed to be amongst adults at such party, so that meant my baby girl who was about 2 years old was up, too.
For over 12 months, we’d been trying to get her to walk. You know how we do as parents. Her Dad would face her towards me and I would encourage her to walk to me. But she would just lean forward and not move her feet. So life would have it that we would carry her everywhere, and unless we were holding her hands she would NOT walk on her on. She cruised around the couch but her only mode of transportation was our hip or crawling.
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